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Question [This question was
submitted by a Japanese woman]:

I am married, and my husband and
I both want to have children.
However, we have not been able
to have one. This seems to have
made our sex life unromantic,
and my husband sometimes
cannot get an erection.

At other times my husband wants
me to give him sex like a call
girl, so, at such times I
have a hard time relaxing and
I feel very alone.

My husband does not like to hold
me in his arms while we sleep,
because it makes him too hot.

What can I do? And is it alright
if I initiate sex? Is that part
of Polynesian sex?

Answer: Every couple will be
sexually what they are
emotionally and spiritually. So
first of all - they need to take
care of themselves.

The first thing you could do is
to talk with each other about any
feelings - both positive and
negative - that you have for each
other: your fears, resentments,
admiration, desires . . .

If you can have good communication
between your hearts, then the
communication between your bodies
will follow naturally.

Second, try to stop placing
demands on each other.

At present each of you feels
tremendous pressure to have a baby.
Also, your husband feels pressure
to always have an erection.
Further, he feels pressure to hold
you all through the all night.

From your side, you feel pressured
sometimes to act like a prostitute
in order to fulfill your husband's
sexual fantasies.

So try to talk with each other
openly about having a more relaxed
attitude.

Probably your husband feels
pressured to be a breadwinner,
to perform sexually and to have
a child. Perhaps he has further
pressures at work. He might
need the call-girl type of
sexual fantasy just to release
all his tensions that have
built up because he feels very
alone.

If you could give him some nice
massage in a quiet atmosphere when
he returns home from work, then
he will feel more relaxed and
capable of more tender forms of
physical expression.

So, you could invite him to tell
you about all the pressures he feels
- and you could talk openly with him
in the same manner.

Just by sharing with each other your
feelings, openly, your emotional
intimacy will grow, and this seeing
into each other's hearts will
improve your love life.

If you want to try Polynesian sex
with your husband, then you need
to understand that in order for
it to really be enjoyable
your husband should share your
enthusiasm for it.

One thing you can do is to make a
deal with your husband to fulfill
his sexual fantasies if he will
fulfill yours. Of course, the
sexual fantasies you act out -
in a spirit of play and exploration -
should be mutually agreeable and
fun for both of you.

The main thing - though - is to take good
care of yourself and or your husband.
Stop placing demands on each other -
give up being so goal-oriented and
bring relaxation, fun and emotional
intimacy into your relationship.
Fulfilling physical intimacy will be
the natural result.

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